When And Where To Find Solitude And Time For Yourself

October 27, 2017

One of the most wonderful things you can do for yourself is to be alone. Yes, completely and totally alone, just hanging out in your own head.

When you are alone you can take stock of what you’re doing now and where you’re headed. Only by being alone can you truly understand who the you that resides in the human body really is. By understanding yourself you can figure out what your purpose is and how you can best serve the world while being beautifully kind to yourself.

Now, you may be thinking sure, that’s a great idea in theory but how exactly do I find alone time in days full to the brim with family, friends and other obligations. Well, there are some simple tricks you can use to sneak a few moments with the who is that is you.

Shut’em all down

First off, there is one very, very important thing you need to do when you truly want to spend some time with yourself and that involves doing the unthinkable – disconnecting.

We can be alone in a room and yet that room can be filled with friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances and bosses and lovers too. There are people everywhere, even if they’re not physically there.

These lovely people can ping you without giving it a second of thought via your mobile phone, which has turned into more of drive-thru window. People can text you, call you, email you, tweet you, snapchat you, instagram you … they just drive through toss something your way and keep going. You on the other hand have to process it.

So turn off the phone, computer, tablet or any other miracle honing device you’ve got. Now, that you’ve done that we’re ready to roll.

The Fresh Clean Morning You

Early mornings are perfect for reflection and if you choose to get up just 30 minutes earlier you could have a whole different kind of day. Instead of waking up to go to work for someone else, for your family or for whatever other commitments you have, why not get up for yourself. It’s a great feeling to choose to do something that you know is wholly for the self-improvement of you.

Have your lunch and eat it too

Those holier lunch hour, can be used for a million and one things. And one of those things is getting your alone time. The noon hour is a great time to reflect on your morning while also knowing you can turn the wheel and change your afternoon if you should so choose.

If you work in an office, you can take a walk, it doesn’t matter where that walk takes place, just as long as you are alone. (And yes, it is perfectly ok to tell your co-workers that you do not want company.

Make you a ritual

Create an evening ritual for yourself. This ritual could be a long bath with candles, a cup of green tea and a date with the veranda after dinner.

That ritual could also be an evening jog that ends up in your favorite spot outdoor and you end up with a nice sit out on the grass, unwind, zen, breathe and let your whole goodness of being in.

Whatever it is you should be alone when you perform it and it is within these alone moments that you should focus on you. Don’t let your thoughts wander to conversations of the day or random happening.

Think about yourself, how you’re feeling, what makes you happy, what you could do to be healthier, happier and help-ier. Me time is a great time to learn about yourself, your feelings and it is in your solitude that you can give yourself permission to just be.


You do you and everything will be a’right

You give a lot of your time away and this can be detrimental to you in the long run. You have to gather all those bits and pieces you give away back into one whole, and treat that whole with a little care, love and respect.

Love-me-time is important time so you can continue to be that lovely person that you are times ten. Now, shut this puppy down and go for a walk, you can come back and make notes if you’d like, I promise we’ll still be here.

Written by Joti Heir.